21 May 2010 @ 06:15 pm
Sex, Thought, Choice, Liberation  
OK, seriously...do you need a label to say who you fuck? Is there some reason we can't all just enjoy the physical activities of sex and intimacy with whomever we enjoy and be good at that? Does it really matter who that might be, or what gender they are compared to you, or what particular actions you enjoy with the partner of your choice?

Sakes alive, it's like, every day, I see some new niche term for sex, gender, or orientation...and all I can think is "do we need this?" just fuck who you want to fuck and both of you have fun (within the limits of consent, of course).

It'd be really great for the population to stop being hung up on this. For us to be able to just say "hey, you know what, I think you're attractive. I think it'd be a helluva lot of fun to roll in the hay (or wherever) with you" and just get a "yeah, that'd be fun" or "no, but thanks for asking" answer with neither party being angry, hurt, offended, wigged out, or whatever, still just as close as before, with the same (low) level of seriousness as "here, taste this", "can I borrow a smoke", "I'm going to the store, wanna go with?", or "join our team or basketball".

Fucking sexual hang-ups. Would be so much easier if we could all stop being so freaked out by it. I'd love to tell you all to try it, just once, and see how liberating it can be, but I doubt seriously that most people would or could...and those that would or could are probably going to tend to get a bad reaction. the few left over that would/could and would get a good reaction, well, most of them are asking an easy target (swinging clubs, significant other, etc).
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Current Music: Supertramp - Take The Long Way Home
avantardavantard on May 22nd, 2010 01:20 am (UTC)
We humans have an irritating and overwhelming desire to name/label/identify every permutation of every aspect of our existence. It's so silly.
Stax: labelstaxxy on May 22nd, 2010 01:40 am (UTC)
wow... I never get a chance to use this icon.

Americans are some of the worst for sexual hangups, too. It's silly.
Mari Adkins: dramamariadkins on May 22nd, 2010 02:20 am (UTC)
and it's getting worse. sometimes i think we weren't this puritanical when we were all still puritans. :snort:
Emil: Medawningday on May 22nd, 2010 03:33 am (UTC)
Anonymouschinadoll66102 on May 22nd, 2010 03:46 am (UTC)
That icon always makes me horny.
God of Thunder and Rock'n'Roll: Libido Boostarchmage on May 22nd, 2010 04:55 am (UTC)
Well, I'd be more than happy to help you with that problem.
Anonymouschinadoll66102 on May 22nd, 2010 05:56 am (UTC)
Yeah yeah yeah ;)

Man, after eating all of these hamburgers, I'm in the mood for a hot beef injection.
Belly: headdeskbellybalt on May 22nd, 2010 08:02 am (UTC)
See icon.

God of Thunder and Rock'n'Roll: Bacon is Meat Candyarchmage on May 22nd, 2010 02:54 pm (UTC)
Come over some times, we'll get things cookin'.
Anonymouschinadoll66102 on May 22nd, 2010 05:05 pm (UTC)
Bacon is candy? This dude seems to love his meat! :P
God of Thunder and Rock'n'Roll: Atomic Brainarchmage on May 22nd, 2010 05:31 pm (UTC)
It's excellent meat, you should try it. Definitely fills you up.
Violet Tigress: corsetviolet_tigress1 on May 22nd, 2010 08:17 am (UTC)
Here, taste this.
God of Thunder and Rock'n'Roll: AMPDarchmage on May 22nd, 2010 02:54 pm (UTC)
Kellykwsapphire on May 24th, 2010 02:29 pm (UTC)
I feel (to an extent) the same way about gender. Assigning a gender at birth, even when there is no clear gender, causes a lot of heartache and anguish for a lot of people in the world. If we just let people grow up into whatever they're gonna grow up into, and didn't try to stick people in restrictive categories (that obviously don't apply to everyone), I think we'd all be a lot better off.
God of Thunder and Rock'n'Rollarchmage on May 24th, 2010 02:35 pm (UTC)
While I agree to an extent, the situation of there being "no clear gender" is rare. it's usually pretty damn obvious which gender one is. Now, as one grows, one may feel a yearning towards the other end of the spectrum, and that's a different thing altogether. Personally, I feel a little too much is being made of the idea of a child born with "no clear gender" and that this idea is being taken up and run with before any clear study has been made of just how often this is happening.

I'm behind anyone that wants to change. One of my best friends is mid-change, and I think it's a great idea. But let's at least be honest about the situation. Seems to me it would be a lot MORE of a problem to not be straight up about what gender one is clearly and biologically is at birth and in the growing years. This is an adult situation, and would best be handled in the adult years when one can make mature and informed decisions.
Kellykwsapphire on May 24th, 2010 03:58 pm (UTC)
I can't speak from personal experience, but my mom's mother was a nurse's aid and she said that babies are born with ambiguous gender far more often than hospitals are willing to admit. What's more, at that time hospitals would take the baby away and perform gender assignment surgery without ever notifying the parents. This was still going on in the 80s, though I haven't seen recent data. In addition there are several outside factors that have been influencing child development, including certain plastics mimicking estrogen and therefore leading the the effeminization of newborn males.

Yes, usually it's cut and dry, but not 100% of the time. And I think in those cases where it's not cut and dry, parents shouldn't be forced to assign a gender (a la the birth certificate), and certainly hospitals should not be allowed to perform these (irreversible) surgeries which can obviously lead to severe psychological confusion/trauma down the road.
God of Thunder and Rock'n'Rollarchmage on May 24th, 2010 04:02 pm (UTC)
Now, I do agree that they shouldn't be making those decisions without the consent of the parents. However, i'm betting most parents want to choose one gender or the other.

Which is worse, the child growing up and deciding to change their gender, or the child growing up with the (innocent but nevertheless present) cruelty and tactlessness of other children because they don't know if they are a boy or a girl? Others' mileage might vary, but I'd rather spare the child that kind of Hell while developing and be supportive and open about choices later.
Kellykwsapphire on May 24th, 2010 04:29 pm (UTC)
I see your point and I agree in the society we have today, being "genderless" would just open someone up to a lot of torture. However, I don't think surgery should be performed in ANY case (even with parental consent) until the child hits puberty and can make an intelligent, informed decision about what they feel their gender should be. The only time surgery should be performed at birth is if non-sexual functionality is hindered, at which case the choice is obvious. But before we go cutting off parts, I think we should wait to see how the kid develops. It's a lot easier to change a person's name and their gender on their documentation than it is to rebuild sexual organs that have been removed.
syrinakintarisyrinakintari on May 28th, 2010 05:46 am (UTC)
I have to agree with you! All I can think of now is my old friend 50"s Steve's token standard line "nice shoes, wanna fuck"