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28 October 2002 @ 10:12 am
Pardon Me While I Crawl Into A Dark Corner  
So I just talk to Di, who has just gotten a call from Jane, her ex-mother-in-law. By the way, if thisd gets confusing, sorry, try to bear with it. Jane is saying that this morning, before Bug left for school, he was really upset, and claims that some time in the past, while Di was out of the room, running him a bath, I smacked him across the face. Of course she passed this on to Charles, so now they are both angry at me (they already don't like me, for making Di happy). Jane says she questioned Bug about it, making sure this wasn't just 6-year-old embellishment, but whatever. Funny how Bug and I are the best of friends, we have a blast, he follows me around like a little blonde shadow half the time...and how this happened so long ago, but he cannot remember what happened five minutes ago.

Jane thinks that she, Charles, and Di need to sit down and discuss this. Frankly, she has no fucking place to be part of it, but whatever. Di said that since I'm involved in this, I should be in on it as well, which of course Charles doesn't want (mostly because he's a big pussy, and doesn't want to even meet me...jackass). Jane agrees, as long as we all understand this is to be an adult, no-yelling convo...whcih I think she needs to say to her son, not to me, since he's the one that talks bad about me in front of Bug and says shit about me trying to turn bug against me (proven fact, kids). Jane also seems to think I have some control issues (as in that I need to be in control or need to control Bug or something...as if she even KNOWS me!).

So let's see, the body count: they are mad at me (they suck, see below), Di is upset at the sitch (but knows me well enough to know I wouldn't do that), I'm upset at the situation, for the light it shows me in, and for the whole thing and where it's going go and what it's causing. Bug is six, and even he admitted that there hasn't been anything since...I'm just trying to figure out what THAT was.

The part that REALLY gets to me is the fact that this suddenly comes up out of the blue. See, they baby him, completely, and he really is a little attention whore. From them, though, he gets inordinate attention, as in the kind of attention you'd pay to a 2-year-old. So anytime he feels he isn't getting enough, he does something to get it...and he has associated that anything about one parent's sitch gets the other side right in his face...so my curiosity is piqued as to why this came up just now, if you follow.

The other part that gets to me is Chuck's attitude. I'm not sdaying I think he and I should be best buddies or anything. C'mon, his wife divorced him and is living happily with me...I can see his anger. But be a fucking adult about it. This isn't about her vs. him, or me vs. him, or anything like that. This is about his son. Me, I'd wanna meet the guy that was around my son half the time. But to this jackass, I am the enemy, because his wife liked me better (as if he was such an angel), and he seems to think that he is in competition with me for Bug. Dude, I will never be Bug's Daddy, nor would I change that. I'm simply here, and I'd like to see bug grow into a great young man as much as I assume he would. Hell, even HE has moved onto a better relationship...you'd think he'd mellow out. Sheesh...and they think *I* have issues.

What makes it all even worse is Jane. She spent some time in jail (long stupid story) during CHuck's young years, so she didn't get to really be Mommy...and she tries to make up for it with Bug. She acts like she's his mother sometimes, and drives me and Di crazy doing it. As a result as well, Chuck doesn't have exactly the world's best parenting skills, and leans on her...not that she's any better; the blind leading the blind. He's so stuck on her, though, that there's no way to get her out of the picture. Just like this meeting, she doesn't need to be part of it. But she will be. *sigh*

OK, had to get that out. I have aggressions that need to the "video game" counselor now.

Oh, and if I didn't mention before, I did not get the job. The hits just keep on coming.
 
 
My Life As A Military Wife & Mother: Mebabyinga on October 28th, 2002 10:43 am (UTC)
Dayum! Sorry about the job and I hope the meeting goes well and the ex and the ex-mother in law can pull their head out of their asses. Sorry you seem to be having the most rotten past few days. But for all the bad can only come some awesome good. Making it through the bad times just makes a person stronger. :o/
Joe: fuckkarzon on October 28th, 2002 11:00 am (UTC)
You'd think it would be time for the good times, though.

Hey Frank, make it up with some Bruce Campbell action this weekend.
My Life As A Military Wife & Mother: Mebabyinga on October 28th, 2002 11:15 am (UTC)
Your right he's certinly had more than his fair share of the bad times. :o(
God of Thunder and Rock'n'Rollarchmage on October 28th, 2002 11:27 am (UTC)
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That is the plan, m'man.
Mark of the Harlotbellacrow on October 28th, 2002 12:53 pm (UTC)
*hugs*

You can do this and they need to understand that Bug needs discipline and boundaries, and Bug needs to understand what telling stories to get attention can do ;-(
God of Thunder and Rock'n'Rollarchmage on October 28th, 2002 08:18 pm (UTC)
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Oh, it gets better...read on...
skiterlady on October 28th, 2002 03:12 pm (UTC)
Fuuuuuu uuu uu uck.

Sometimes there are things people can't talk about in journal, myself included. So I can't say much, except, I have a great deal of empathy for you and I know someone else who does, as well.

Hope this shitfest rights itself damn quick.
God of Thunder and Rock'n'Rollarchmage on October 28th, 2002 08:20 pm (UTC)
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You and me both...but somehow, I doubt it...read on to the latest chapter.